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She Says… Snow Day!

“The Great Blizzard of 2010” has arrived.

Only kidding — we got a lot of snow (about 18″), but it certainly wasn’t the Armageddon that the news stations were predicting. And we live in NEW ENGLAND, so we should be ready to get dumped on once in awhile. I, for one, love snow, so I was thrilled to see the flakes coming down.

You know what’s a little harder in the snow, though? Pushing a stroller. Especially while walking an 85 lb dog down un-shoveled sidewalks.

On Sunday I took Owen out in the Baby Bjorn instead of the stroller, thinking he’d be warmer up against my body and his face would be protected if he faced me. Wrong! We had to cut our walk short because he was covered in snow and his little cheeks got chapped from the cold wind. Poor thing. So I guess the stroller is the best option because I can put the plastic rain/wind cover over him once he’s bundled in there. But pushing it over snowbanks is a serious workout!

Seeing as our days often include at least 1 and usually 2 walks (both for the dog’s sake and to act as a distraction when Owen is getting a little cranky), perhaps it’s fortunate that Owen will start daycare just as the weather turns a bit too cold for the little guy to be outside for too long. I’m trying to concentrate on the upsides of this big change. T minus 5 days until I start back at work. Oh my.


She Says… A Boy’s Best Friend

It’s pretty amazing how much Owen changes from day to day. I know I’ve been saying it for 4 1/2 months, but it never ceases to amaze me how all of a sudden, one day, he’ll learn how to do something new. And from then on, he can do it. Like rolling over, which he does immediately when I put him down on his stomach now (still only rolling from tummy to back, and still only in one direction, but it’s so immediate now that it makes me laugh every time), or sleeping through the night (7pm – 6:30am, which he’s done for the last three nights!). Today I noticed he purposefully picked up a toy that had previously been too heavy for him to lift and brought it all the way to his mouth to suck on it. His fine motor skills are becoming so much more refined every single day.

You know something else that has developed in the last few days? A relationship with Schnitzel. Schnitzel, our 85 lb labradoodle, has been by Owen’s side since the day we brought him home. Sometimes whining to be taken for a walk, sometimes bringing us toys to toss for him while we play with Owen, often running to the nursery door when he hears Owen crying, and always giving him licks and sniffs. But only in the last day or so has Owen responded. It’s like a switch was flipped, and now all of a sudden Owen seems to think Schnitzel is the coolest thing since sliced bread. And since he hasn’t had sliced bread yet, he just may think Schnitzel is the coolest thing EVER. Owen breaks out into a huge smile when Schnitzel comes in the room, and opens his mouth and closes his eyes in bliss when Schnitzel licks his face. (I’m quickly learning to stop wiping the dog spit off of his face — it’s a futile mission and some exposure to germs is probably good for my little guy!)

Today during our morning playtime, Owen and I were sitting on the floor practicing sitting and standing and playing with some toys. Schnitzel came right over, plopped himself down next to us and played too. He let Owen sit next to him and pat his fur (and give him a few good grabs) and then he licked him all over. He nuzzled Owen’s head as they lay side by side, and then brought his tennis ball and dropped it right at Owen’s feet for him to toss back. Owen was totally entertained and kept cooing happily. It was so sweet I just about melted.

From the day we got Schnitzel I knew he would be an awesome “brother” for our baby, whenever he or she arrived. And now that I can see the bond between Owen and Schnitzel starting to grow, it’s pretty much the sweetest thing ever. I’m sure it will get even stronger when Owen starts eating food that can fall on the floor for Schnitzel to clean up 🙂

I know this post would have been a lot more fun with pictures, but alas, when I’m home alone I barely have enough hands to play with the dog and the baby at the same time, let alone hold a camera. My resident photographer comes home today (yay!) so I’ll try to capture their playtime soon.

She Says… Priorities

I’ve noticed that since I had Owen, my To Do lists have become much shorter. Much shorter and much more prioritized. Whereas before I knew that I could finish everything on my list by bedtime, now I am lucky to do one or two things amidst naptimes and walks and playing and errands. Prioritizing is key. Since our schedule is almost always in flux, I’m [constantly] learning how to be flexible with my never-ending lists.

The morning nap is always the most reliable for Owen. It is usually 1 or 2 hours, which gives me a good opportunity to get ready for my day.

Morning nap To Do’s:
– Pump
– Breakfast
– Shower
– Blogging

That usually takes close to an hour, once I organize milk/bottles for the next feeding, tidy a few things around the house, etc. When Owen wakes up we play for awhile, he eats for awhile, and then right as the next naptime is approaching, I try to get us out for a walk with the dog. If we don’t, the poor pooch may never get out to poop! So I pop Owen in a carrier of some sort (or the stroller, but the carrier is more reliable to put him to sleep) and head out. Once we get home, we repeat the eat/play/nap cycle as best we can until it’s about bedtime.

Since afternoon naps are harder to come by, I can’t be sure I’m going to get to my To Do list. If and when I do, it usually looks something like…

Afternoon nap To Do’s:
– Exercise (usually in the living room — thank goodness for workout DVDs!)
– Fold Laundry
– Prep Dinner
– Tidy up the toys, blankets, books, etc. that we used during the day

Unfortunately that means that things like paying bills, returning emails, baking and other not-top-of-the-list things fall by the wayside. It’s no wonder I feel like I never get anything done. Maybe someday I’ll get back to being as productive as I used to be. For now I’m cherishing every minute with my little munchkin!

She Says… Owen’s First Trip to the Mountains

We had a wonderful weekend away. Owen did great on the 4 1/2 hour car rides there and back (even took a bottle in his carseat while driving!). He stuck to his regular sleeping schedule at night, too, which was a huge relief to the tired Mama!

He barely cried or fussed all weekend since there was always someone there to hold him or entertain him.

He got to taste the crisp mountain air on his first hike.

And Benjamin and I went on OUR FIRST DATE since Owen was born. Long-awaited. It felt wonderful, and it was surprisingly easy for me to switch off the mom brain and return to normal conversation. We did NOT spend our evening saying things like, “I wonder what Owen’s doing right now”, although we did come home a little earlier than we planned because my boobs were going to explode since I missed a nursing session while Owen had a bottle. Not so romantic. Nonetheless, it was pretty fun to put on some new (read: non-maternity) clothes and have a glass of wine with my honey.

Our thrush is going away, just very slowly. My symptoms are resolving quicker than Owen’s, but I have seen an improvement in his eating in the last day or so. So fingers are crossed that we’re through the worst of it!

She Says… Treatment

Thrush has taken over my life, and my countertop. I am now on a complicated regimen of prescribed meds and herbal supplements, along with my normal vitamins and fish oil that I take regularly.

For those who care about the thrush treatment, I am doing a full course of Diflucan (Fluconazole), which is 2 pills on the first day and one every subsequent day for 7 days. I’m also using a vinegar and water rinse on my nipples after every feeding, and then letting them air dry and putting on Nystatin cream. Whenever possible I allow them to be uncovered and in the open air (hello, neighbors!). I’m also taking grapefruit seed extract in pill form 3 times a day, as well as Acidophilus 3 times a day. I’m limiting dairy and sugar (which includes, sigh, WINE) and eating mostly veggies and whole grains (which I do anyway). Owen gets two squirts of liquid Nystatin in his mouth after each feeding, and I might try letting him suck some of the Acidophilus off of my finger once a day as well. I’m hoping a combo of Western meds and good old-fashioned herbal supps will kick this thing ASAP.

My other form of treatment for this awful thing? VACATION. Ok, so it just happened to fall on Columbus Day weekend, but nevertheless, Benjamin, Owen, Schnitzel and I are heading up north to New Hampshire for a little much-needed R & R. Can’t wait to introduce Owen to the White Mountains and the gorgeous foliage. Hopefully by Monday we’ll be happier and healthier.

She Says… Patience

It is amazing to me how much patience I have for Owen. Like, unending. Perhaps this, too, is a phase that I will grow out of — but for now, the little guy can do no wrong. I will rock him as long as he needs to be rocked to fall asleep, encourage him to eat when he is being pokey, try different positions endlessly when he is uncomfortable. It seems, though, that the more patience I have for him, the less I seem to have for others.

Namely, Schnitzel. And sometimes Benjamin.

Schnitzel was my first baby. Benjamin and I got him a few short months after we got married, and we became a happy family of three. He was 8 weeks old when we got him, and we went through many of the “new parent” duties like getting up in the middle of the night to pee, and listening to his sad little whimpers and cries for the first few nights that he was away from his family. We spent hours teaching him commands and how to walk on a leash (he’s now upwards of 80 pounds… it’s a darn good thing we taught him to be so well-behaved!). We walked him religiously and planned our Saturdays around trips to the dog park or hikes.

Now? Now it’s hard for me to even squeeze in our midday walk. I can’t really remember the last time I laid down on the floor with him and cuddled him (which used to happen almost every night, pre-baby). Don’t get me wrong — I still love him just as much. And I try. It’s just that it’s hard to fit it all in, and I think Schnitzel time has been replaced by (or at least bumped, for the time being) Owen time.

I find that I just don’t have patience with Schnitzel like I used to. The jingle of his collar is one of the only sounds that wakes Owen up, even from a deep sleep. So when he shakes his head and I’ve forgotten to take his collar off in the house, I want to scold him and yank it off — knowing full well that it’s not Schnitzel’s fault he made noise, but still wanting to take it out on the dog. Similarly, when he’s sniffing and licking Owen, I find myself saying “Ok, that’s enough” and pushing Schnitzel away without even really patting him myself. My brain knows that he’s just trying to sniff the baby and give him some love, but my limited patience sees it as annoying and bothersome. And on our walks, where I used to let Schnitzel wander around and sniff every bush, now I pull him along because if I stop walking, the baby sleeping in the Bjorn will wake up. Poor pup!

I always said that I wouldn’t be one of those people who ignored their pet as soon as their baby came along. And I’m not… today we went for an hour long walk, and I make a concerted effort to give him some love and attention at least once a day. But once a day is quite a downgrade from what he was enjoying before!

Anyone else feel like your patience runs thin for your four-legged babies as a result of the two-legged ones?

She Says… Maternity Photos: Revealed

A few weeks ago Benjamin and I spent the day with our friend Katie Ring (of Katie Ring Images) taking some maternity photos. I wasn’t really sure what to expect from the shoot. I am used to being the subject of Benjamin’s photos (he works in video production and is an avid still photographer), but he prefers candids, and I had never really been in a studio setting before. I was excited about getting some frameable photos with both me and Benjamin, which rarely happens since he’s always behind the camera, but I was also a bit nervous that I wouldn’t know how to pose or what kinds of faces to make. Or worse yet, that I would hate the photos!

Lucky for me, there was really nothing at all to worry about. Katie was a professional from the moment we walked in the door. She had a small area of her studio set up for us, and we all brainstormed together about what kinds of shots we had in mind. We started simple (the classic “hands make a heart over the belly” shot, below) and graduated into new outfits and new poses (see the one with Benjamin’s face next to my belly, below). We got so comfortable that I even took some lingerie shots (not blog-appropriate — sorry!) and even a few tastefully naked photos. I never imagined my belly could look quite so beautiful.

Then we ventured outside to a nearby park to take some more “engagement-style” photos. These were really fun. Benjamin and I never did engagement photos when we got married, but I often wish that we had more photos of the two of us, so I was really excited at what Katie was able to capture. The day was pretty hot and humid, but Katie is such a talented photographer that you don’t see our sweaty faces or frizzy hair.

Finally, I publicly bared my belly in the (chilly!) ocean for the sake of some bikini shots. Believe me, I’ve never been so comfortable or happy to pose for a camera in a bathing suit! I was lovin’ my belly and I’m so glad we took the plunge (literally and figuratively!) to get these shots. I think the green bikini shot is my favorite one of the whole day.

All in all I think taking maternity photos was an incredible way to celebrate my changing body and capture this very special moment in time. A HUGE thank you to Katie for taking the time and energy to get some creative and wonderful photos. Katie’s changing the focus of her photography business to be less weddings and more maternity/baby/family-focused, so if anyone’s looking for a photographer in the New England area, check her out!

If you want to see the rest, click this link to see a slideshow of the best photos we got.

All of these photos are copyright Katie Ring Images 2010.

She Says… 31 Weeks

My sweet boy,

31 weeks! The single digit week countdown has begun. Maybe it’s time to buckle down and get your nursery finished?! Daddy and I have a plan for the next few weekends — amidst child birth class and a maternity photo shoot (!!!), a long weekend in Nantucket and the July 4th weekend in New Hampshire, we will move his office out of the house, my office downstairs, and turn the upstairs room into your room! It’s a lot of furniture moving/building, painting and reorganizing, so it’s a several step process. Our goal is to be as ready as we can be by July 4th so we can have a month to “relax” and remember all of the little things we’ve forgotten.

From this week on, my little pumpkin, you will gain about a 1/2 pound a week. You’re growing like a weed! Unfortunately for me, that only accounts for a portion of the weight I’m gaining 🙂  Space is getting tight in there, and you’re all squished up with your arms and legs tucked in close to your body. Since my last appointment when the doctor told me your position, I am beginning to recognize various bumps and kicks and movements as arms, legs, head, etc. It’s just amazing to think that you’re so big that I can actually tell where your little foot is inside my body (umm, still wedged up under my right rib, thankyouverymuch!). You are so developed that you can use all five of your senses. You’re almost fully cooked and ready to taste yummy food, hear my voice, feel Schnitzel’s soft hair, see your daddy’s goofy smile and smell the summertime flowers!

Even though I’m the one who is carrying you around every day, Daddy is so ready to meet you. The other day he said “I wish he was here”! I, on the other hand, am really glad we have a few more weeks to prepare for you. But I cannot imagine how incredible it will be to hold you and touch your tiny little foot that was previously jammed into my rib for many months.

You are about to turn our lives upside down, little one, and I couldn’t be happier.

I love you.

She Says… 30 Weeks

My darling little boy,

It’s hot out. All of a sudden the New England spring weather gave way to summer and it’s over 90 degrees today. Yesterday we took a midday walk with Schnitzel and the poor guy was panting and laying down on the cool pavement only a few minutes after we left the house. Today we’re going to walk slower, not as far, and will bring along some water for all three of us. That seems to be the name of the game for me recently — do everything slower and bring water.

I just got back from a doctor’s appointment and my OB says everything looks outstanding. I have very low blood pressure, healthy pulse, steady weight gain (although it’s a few pounds higher than I would like, but if we’re so healthy, I’m not worrying about it!), and your heart rate is strong and steady at about 155 bpm. Perfect. She poked and prodded my stomach to figure out what position you’re in, and it looks like you are head down with your back facing out and your butt up near my right rib. So that annoying rib cramp/jab I keep feeling could be a little tiny foot. Your head is nice and low, which explains why whenever I stand up, I feel like I have to pee — your head is pushing right on my bladder! I’m so proud of both of us for being so fit and healthy at this point in the pregnancy. Now try to stay in that general head down position and we’ll be good to go for labor in 7-10 weeks. 7-10 weeks. Whoa. We have a lot to do to get ready for you.

This week you are 15-16 inches long and you weigh over 3 pounds. From this point on, babies begin to gain weight at a more individual rate, so we really don’t know exactly how much you weigh, but chances are you will more than double your weight in the next 10 weeks! That is  a lot of growing you’re doing in there. I just can’t imagine how we’ll fit 3+ more pounds in there. Your eyesight is continuing to develop as well. Apparently if I shine a flashlight into my belly you can see the light and may respond to it. Once I find a flashlight with batteries that work, I will give that a try.

You are also settling into sleeping and waking cycles, and they seem to be somewhat aligned with my own, which I appreciate! When I wake up in the morning I can feel you begin to stir. Then you nap a bit while I shower and dress for the day. I eat breakfast, and after that I can feel you boppin’ around eating your breakfast too. Then there’s another lull while I walk to work (either that or I’m just not feeling you since I’m moving around), and another party in my belly around lunchtime. Just like your Mama, you seem to respond to food more than anything else! The afternoon is similar to the morning — naptime, then snack, then dance party, then naptime, then dinner, then dance party, then naptime, then usually the biggest dance party of all right before bed. Keep up the dancin’… as uncomfortable as your little kicks and jabs are getting, I still love feeling you every day, and, as they say, an active baby is a healthy baby! Also, I’ve already begun to feel a little nostalgic for when this part of our adventure is all over and I no longer get to feel those special movements shake my belly.

I love you, my little dude. Every day that goes by makes me more excited to meet you. Keep up the good work growing and developing in there.

All the love in my heart,

She Says… Ask Us Anything (Part 2 of 3)

More answers to more questions from readers! Again… in no particular order. If you missed Round 1, check it out here.

11. How long did you guys date before you were married?

Kate: We met when I was a freshman in college, and Benjamin had just graduated from college (an older man!). We dated while I was in college (except when we broke up for about 6-8 months, depending on which one of us you ask), and he proposed in the fall of my senior year. I had NO IDEA he was going to ask me, but there was no doubt in my mind when I said yes. We had a long engagement, though, because I didn’t want to be wedding planning while I was concentrating on finishing school, so we were married in the summer of 2006, which was 1 year after I graduated college (4 years after we met).

Benjamin: We met in 2002 when Kate was a freshman in college and I had just graduated from college. I was producing and recording an album for her college a cappella group. We were both dating other people at the time, but we hit it off. A few months later we were both single and hit it off again and started dating. I broke up with her after a few months, though (because I am an idiot), and we were broken up for about 6 months before getting back together. (Although I thought we were dating again after 6 months and Kate says we were “NOT” dating then.) I proposed to her in December of 2004 when she was a senior in college (with the help of her a cappella group) and we got married in June of 2006.

12. How long were you married before you decided it was time for children?

Kate: I would have been ready for children a lot earlier, but Benjamin kept saying “2 more years”. Once I finished my masters program I was really ready and he was beginning to come around too (not to mention we had the house and the dog, so what were we waiting for?). Lo and behold, after the 9 months of “trying” it took, we’ll have a baby 4 years and 2 months after we got married, so the timeline worked out pretty perfectly for both of us.

Benjamin: We started trying to have children in February of 2009. There was some time when I kept saying “two more years”, and that went on for a while until Kate said “it’s been two years”. I feel happy that we had a few years of not having or trying to have a baby.

13. What tradition are you most excited to do with your children?

Kate: Hmmm, this is a great question. I grew up in a house with lots of traditions, and I love the idea of passing some of those on to my kid(s). However, I think a lot of those traditions evolved because of me and my siblings (I’m 3rd out of 4 kids), so I imagine we’ll invent some of our own as well. I think some of the best traditions are food-related, so I’ll be making our special sweet rolls for Christmas morning, no question!

Benjamin: Another good question and I am not really sure what the answer is. While I would like to say that it would be our weekend ritual (when we are both around) of having oatmeal and sitting on the couch and catching up on episodes of “The Office” and “24”, I am guessing it will be several years before Piccolino can appreciate these shows. I don’t actually feel that we have a lot of traditions. I am sure that is not actually the case, but it seems that way to me. I am sure once we have a child, we will develop more family traditions.

14. How long are you taking for a maternity leave?

Kate: I get 10 weeks paid by my company (8 weeks for maternity leave, plus 2 weeks of “parental leave”). I’m very lucky, I know! Believe me, I looked into it back when we started trying and it was a big factor in my decision to stay with my company or look for a new position after I graduated from my masters program. Anyway, after those 10 weeks, I’m going to take until January 1st unpaid. That way, the baby will be 4-5 months old when I put him in daycare, which makes me a lot more comfortable than sending him off at 2 months. And I’m REALLY looking forward to having a New England fall with no work!

Benjamin: We are lucky that Kate works for a good company and they give her a good amount (for the United States) of maternity leave (10 weeks) and are supportive of her taking unpaid leave for an extra 2 months. I know it will be hard for Kate to go back to work, but as we’ve discussed on the blog before, it’s important (and necessary) to have her go back to work. We will each take 1 day off each week to take care of Piccolino, and he will go to daycare 3 days a week. I am happy with the idea of this setup.

15. Did you ever feel like some people just don’t “get” Infertility? I’ve got a good friend that just doesn’t seem to understand how it makes me feel, etc.

Kate: Yup! I think it’s almost impossible to understand the intricacies of dealing with infertility if you’ve never done it yourself. It affects every part of your life, and really makes you doubt your future. To people who are not at the babymaking stage of their life, they may not understand why it’s “such a big deal”. And to those who had no trouble getting pregnant, they may feel guilty that they don’t know how to respond or just think you “need to relax” (ha!) or that it just takes time and you’re being impatient. The most frustrating thing to me is how no one TALKS about struggling with infertility. That was one of my big reasons for starting this blog. I wanted to be able to start a conversation about it and remove some of the stigma. For some reason we can talk about cancer at the dinner table, but not infertility. I’m not sure why that is, but I think it needs to change, especially considering how many people are affected by it in one way or another.

Benjamin: I think it’s hard to understand if you haven’t been through it.  I think even we don’t understand the extent of it for the large number of people who have it much worse than we do.  The experience of struggling to get pregnant (especially through the blog) has opened my eyes to how widespread infertlity problems are.  I do still question how far I would feel comfortable going in trying to conceive a child if things were much worse, as I think the expense and heartache can be devastating, when adoption is a perfect alternative. 

16. If you could go back in time to when you were still TTC, what would you say to yourself now that you have been pregnant for 20+ weeks, and you know now what it feels like to be on the “other side” of the IF rollercoaster! I always wonder what I’ll wish that I would have known if I ever get to carry a baby in the future.

Kate: I would tell myself to stop trying to control the timeline, and that it WILL happen! Also, to trust the doctors. I spent so much time and energy doing research on my own to check and double check what my doctors were saying and doing. Don’t get me wrong, this was a very important process for me, and I’m so glad I worked so hard to be so well-informed, but if I could have loosened the reigns a little bit and trusted the process, I might not have stressed so much about each step of the way.

17. How do you plan to introduce the baby to your dog? Are you worried about how Schnitzel will react?

Kate: Introducing the baby to Schnitzel is one of the things I look forward to most. Schnitzel has been our “first baby” for the last 3 ½ years, so I know he will go through a bit of an adjustment playing second fiddle. However, he is SO sweet and SO gentle and such a lovebug that I have no doubts that the transition will be smooth. He adjusts so well to changing situations and environments, and I think he will not have any problem adjusting to our new baby-focused schedule. Don’t get me wrong, I expect he’ll be a little jealous! But Benjamin and I will try our best to continue to give him the most love and attention that we can.

Benjamin: I am very excited for Schnitzel with the baby. He is such a gentle, loving dog and I think he will be awesome with the baby. He has been around a lot of babies and he is initially VERY curious but then he calms down. I think our baby will get lots of doggie licks. I wonder whether Schnitzel will still sleep in his bed in our room or want to sleep in the nursery. I do worry about Schnitzel feeling neglected as he gets LOTS of love from us, but I really think of him as our first baby and I can’t imagine giving him any less attention.

18. Are you religious people? If yes, at what point do you want to introduce religion to your child?

Kate: I was raised in a Christian home, and although I don’t believe everything that goes along with being a Christian now, I feel strongly about instilling a strong sense of morals and inner strength in my child(ren). It’s important for me to teach our son about all different religions and let him choose what he believes in. That said, it’s a complicated issue, and I certainly don’t have it all figured out yet.

Benjamin: We are not religious people. I was never brought up very religious. One of my sets of parents is Jewish (sort of) and the other set is Christian (sort of) but neither are practicing. We celebrated Christmas at both houses and that was really the extent of it. My guess is that it will not be a big part of our children’s upbringing. I am sure we will go to church with Kate’s family if we spend Christmas with them, etc., but I couldn’t see us going to church or synagogue on our own. We certainly would not discourage our kids if they choose on their own to become more religious, but it is not something we plan to practice.

19. How do you feel about vaccines?

Kate: In general, I am a strong advocate for leading a naturally healthy life. I don’t take too many medicines, I eat very little processed food, I try to stay away from unnecessary or potentially harmful chemicals in the products I use and come into contact with every day. I take my vitamins, BUT I also get a flu shot every year, and this year I got the H1N1 vaccine even after I found out I was pregnant. And when I am sick enough to go to the doctor and they prescribe me medicine, I take it. I feel that vaccines have improved our daily lives by eliminating a lot of very scary diseases. And if parents decide not to vaccinate their children, they are putting their children (and others around them) at risk. I will discuss the options with my pediatrician, when the time comes, to make sure that the vaccines I am approving are necessary and well-tested, but I am not against using the power of modern medicine to keep my kid(s), and others, healthy. I know some people feel that vaccines are to blame for the rising rates of autism and other disorders, but in general, I feel that the advantages outweigh the risks.

Benjamin: I am pretty trusting of most modern medicine and typically trust doctors. However, I know lots of people who feel the opposite. My guess is that we will do the vaccines that our pediatrician recommends. It’s nice to have doctors in the family (Kate’s sister and brother-in-law) and we can get their opinions on the matter as well. I just don’t feel educated enough on the subject to go against what the doctors are saying. Maybe I am naive, but I think that works for me.

20. Are you considering more kids? And… what about adoption?

Kate: Yes! We definitely want more than one child. How many more than one differs between the two of us. I want as many as we can handle — I’m one of 4 kids and I love, love, love having a big family. Benjamin is one of 2, and he thinks that’s a good number. So… somewhere between 2 and 4 is the goal for now. But, if there’s one thing I’ve learned from our struggle with infertility, it’s that you really never know what’s going to happen, and things don’t always go according to plan. I am not at all opposed to adoption, but it’s not something we’ve really discussed yet.

Benjamin: Yes we are considering more kids. I would like 2 total. Kate wants 3 or 4. I want 2. Just two. I have no idea what we will agree on. My guess is that either I will love having children so much that I will want more, or that Kate will feel like 2 is plenty.


Ok, that’s it for Round 2. Final questions to come tomorrow or Thursday.