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He Says… Missing Out

This last month has flown by and I can’t believe that Owen will be 9 months old on Sunday.  I know Kate will write one of her beautiful monthly letters next week, but I just can’t believe how much our little boy has changed over the last month.

I’m also a little sad that I’ve been travelling so much this past month that I feel like I’m missing a ton of this rapid developmental stage.  This past month has been a whirlwind of work trips, and long work days where I’m lucky if I can see Owen for 10 minutes before leaving for the day.  I just got back yesterday from a 4 day trip, and my little boy, who was slowly crawling last week was now racing all around the place on hands and knees at a pretty rapid pace.  I also think that every time I don’t see him for a day or 2, he looks so much bigger when I get home.  I feel like any day now he’s going to go from crawling to walking and from gibberish sounds to talking and I just don’t want to miss out on any of it.  Obviously I need to continue working, but it’s just a little sad to miss some of these things.

The other night while I was away I was at dinner and looking through pictures on my phone and was shocked at how tiny Owen used to be and how different he looked, not all that long ago.  It’s amazing that this child is the same one now who crawls and cruises around the house now, making all sorts of funny noises, smiling and laughing all day.  Not that we’re anywhere close to adding to our family, but I can understand why people miss this stage and want to do it again.  And I know we will some day.

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He Says… First words?

Okay, so it’s not really a word that he’s saying, but I am just going to assume that he is saying Dad, Dad, Dad.

Happy Monday!

She Says… Happy Holidays

Happy Holidays everyone!

The last few years, Benjamin and I have made a video instead of sending out Christmas cards, and this year we knew exactly who would be the star.  It took us a little longer than we expected, though, because our actor had some diva-like demands.  Naps every two hours?  Warm milk in special bottles?  Even diaper changes and wiping up spit-up!

Here’s what we came up with.  I hope you all have a great holiday!

He Says… Getting the Picture (Part #2)

The other week I posted a (probably overly technical) post about what camera gear I use and recommend.  Now I’ll get into some basic tips for improving shots of your little ones.  These tips can (typically) be applied to any camera, be it a cell-phone or a $5000 DSLR, although some of these concepts are more easily applied with cameras that offer a little more manual control.  (I am going to re-purpose some older photos (but a few new ones) here to demonstrate my points.)

1. Lighting

Lighting is a key part of getting a good shoot.  My first recommendation is to try to avoid using the on-camera flash, which can often result in a dear-in-headlights kind of look.  If you are shooting somewhat more posed shots indoors, look for brighter areas of your house, like near a window or a brightly lit room.  Typically if it looks good to your eye, it will look good for your camera.  And generally when shooting people, the softer the light the better, so try to avoid direct light which can cause lots of harsh shadows.

Here I had Kate hold Owen near a window. The room was very dark but I liked how it made the background almost black.

Taking advantage of a sun-drenched room early in the morning.

The same can concept can be applied outdoors.  People will often instinctively stand facing the sun because, well, it is bright, but nobody wants to be squinting in their pictures.  Later in the day when the sun is lower, being positioned with the sun as a backlight is often very flattering.  This can sometimes be a case for using the flash, though.  Some cameras have a low-flash or fill-flash setting, so when you are using the sun as a backlight, using the fill-flash can help to brighten and fill some shadows on faces.

 

I set up this shot so we were in a shady area and the late day sun was behind us which creates a nice backlight. No flash was used here.

If you are using a DSLR and get an external flash, these can work very well, because you can aim them at a ceiling or attach different types of softening filters (called diffusers) which can create nice, soft, indirect light.  Also, shooting indoors with no flash when there is more dim light is also when having the more expensive lenses comes into play.

2. Composition

The way that a shot is framed will have a huge impact on the success of a photo.  The most basic tip I’ve learned from shooting little ones (and pets) is to get eye to eye.  When you have a tiny tot sitting on the floor, you would commonly get the shot from your perch standing above them.  But getting on the floor so you can be eye to eye (or even below them) gives a more interesting perspective.  I think part of the reason is that it can add some depth to the shot because we see what is behind them.  And if you’re shooting with settings/equipment that can get that background more out of focus, that depth will help make your subject pop out in the picture more.

This picture is fine, but I am above him and I think the next one is better.

Whereas this one I am at his eye-level, which I think is more interesting. He is also not against the back cushion so there is more depth in the shot.

It also helps when composing a shot to use more of the frame for your subject.  I often see snapshots where there is unnecessary headroom above the subject, or the frame is just too wide and the subject is quite small.  Sure you can crop the photo in any basic editing software, but it’s better to think about this when taking the shot.  Zooming in on your subject so they fill the frame more will often create that nice depth to a shot, and let the viewer focus on what we want to see.  A good rule of thumb is to place the subject’s eyes on the top third line of the photo.

3. Speed

While I don’t have much experience yet with shooting a fast moving child.  I anticipate that once Owen starts moving, it will be a much bigger challenge to get photos of him.  Right now, he is a perfect subject as he is fine sitting still for long durations.  In many cases, shooting a moving, unpredictable target means that all bets are off and my advice is to shoot a LOT of frames and hope that one of them works out well.  Technically, when shooting a moving subject the best way to get them sharp and in focus is having a faster shutter speed.  This means that you need more light, so shooting your child running around indoors might be tough (or just use the flash and hope for the best).  Another good tip is to follow your subject with the camera.  If they are running, pan (or run) with them and blast through a bunch of shots.  This gives the camera a fighting chance of getting them in better focus.

 

Here's my neice, Abby. I was running alongside her with the camera at my waist just firing shot after shot. There are about 10 that are no good but this one came out nicely, I think.

And Kate's brother's dog Charlie. I had to shoot with a fast shutter speed (which worked because he was in bright sun) to freeze the action.

4. Editing

Many computers come with basic photo editing software.  Many Mac computers are equipped with iPhoto which offers a very high level of editing abilities, and I imagine there is a Windows equivalent.  It’s worth taking a minute or so to tweak your best shots.  You can adjust exposure, brightness, color, or add a photo effect that makes your shot more interesting.  If you have a camera that can shoot in RAW mode (most DSLRs have this) you will have a lot more control should you choose to edit them, but even the JPEGs that most cameras shoot can be tweaked a fair amount.

This is the picture as shot. A little cool and dark.

And after some simple tweaks, I was able to brighten the image and make it warmer.

The other (almost more important) aspect of editing is to pick and choose the best shots.  With sites like Facebook, it is easy to display all the pictures of you and your family, but few people want to see 200 shots from your latest excursion.  Take the time to eliminate the bad shots.  I would say if you are “displaying” 25% of what you shoot, that’s a good amount.

If you have any questions about any of these tips, don’t hesitate to ask.  And certainly take all of this with a grain of salt, as you may break these rules and get some awesome photos (I do, sometimes).

He Says… Quick Link

My second post today, but a friend just posted this on Facebook and I think it’s an absolutely awesome post.  As someone who frequently dressed up in girl’s clothing as a child, I found it especially poignant. Definitely a worthwhile read:

http://nerdyapplebottom.com/2010/11/02/my-son-is-gay/

He Says… Our talkative little man

Kate and I are in the midst of what could be a pretty sleepless night.  Owen may be a little under the weather, and has had a fussy day, and just got up a few hours before he normally does.  He was pretty inconsolable, and we took turns putting him back to sleep, but Kate “the miracle worker”, succeeded.

Anyway, on a lighter/happier note, here is a video I shot of Owen yesterday that I think will brighten everybody’s day.  Owen is definitely getting his voice, and several times a day he’s enjoyed talking to us.

He Says… Getting the picture (Part #1)

I thought I would post today about something a little bit off topic: photography.  I have had some readers comment or email asking about what gear I use, and I thought I would post about what I use, and some basic tips for improving your pics.  I am not a professional photographer, but shoot video professionally, and taking stills is a passion of mine (and it follows many of the same principles as shooting video).  My camera has gotten more use taking pics since Owen was born, and I sometimes worry if he only recognizes me as half human/half camera.  If he calls me “Canon” instead of “Daddy” then I know we have a problem.

What gear I use:

I shoot with a Canon 7D DSLR camera.  It’s not cheap, but does fall in the sort of upper-mid range in the Canon line of their DSLRs.  You can pick up a 7D body for around $1500.  I actually got it because it shoots really great HD video as well, and I use it frequently for work as a video camera (and for a lot of the videos on this blog).  I like the Canon line of DSLRs, and they start around $550 with the Rebel XS.  The newer Rebel T2i (about $700 for the body/no lens) is also a great entry into DSLRs,  and also has the great HD video mode of the 7D that I use.  In the Nikon line, I would look at the D3100 or D5000 as good starting points.  The D300 (I know, all these numbers are confusing) is pretty comparable to the Canon 7D at around $1500 for the body (although the video mode it has is lower quality).  Panasonic also has some nice cameras in the GH1 and GH2, although I’ve never used those.

A lot of the quality in pictures comes from the lenses, and that is largely where the expense comes in.  Most cameras that come with a “kit” lens, use a lower quality lens.  These are usually quite fine for bright light, outdoor shots, but don’t excel when it comes to indoor, low light shots.  I opted to buy my 7D without the kit lens and bought several nicer lenses instead.  These can get quite expensive, and especially nowadays when the camera bodies are less expensive, you can spend more than the camera on a single lens.  So unless you are an avid hobbyist or looking to get into photography professionally (or have deep pockets) some of the expensive lenses I use may be impractical for you.  But, if you get a camera with the kit lens (which is usually a zoom in the range of 18-55mm, which is a good wide to medium close-up lens), and want one nicer lens, look at getting a fixed focal length “prime” lens with a fast aperture.  The aperture (or f-stop) is what dictates how much light can be brought into the lens.  The lower the number, the more light you can let in.  Canon sells a relatively inexpensive 50mm lens with a f1.8 aperture for around $100 (Nikon has a similar one too).  This is a great lens for indoor or low-light shots, and nice for taking pictures of people.  It’s a medium close-up lens so works well for portraits.  The lower aperture, in addition to letting in more light, creates a shallower plane of focus (depth of field) so it’s easy to blur out the background.  This is often quite desirable for shooting people and makes them stand out more in the photo.

If you are looking for a nice zoom lens, look for ones with lower apertures (usually f2.8).  They are pricier and heavier but are the best for low-light.  Also, the “off-brand” lenses are generally less expensive so if you have a Canon or Nikon camera body, look at Tamron or Sigma lenses.  Some don’t work as well as the Canon or Nikon lenses, so just check reviews.  Most work great though.

Next week I’ll write about some shooting tips that you can use (with any camera) for getting some better or more interesting pics of your babies, families, friends, etc.  But in the meantime, if you have any questions feel free to ask.

He Says… Driving Home

We had a wedding in northeast Pennsylvania on Sunday, and drove home yesterday.  The 2 car rides (about 6 hours each) went pretty smoothly.  Owen is a champ in the car for the first while, but (like me) gets a little cranky after a while.  We definitely push his feedings a bit as we tried to get to our destination, and he didn’t really like that but it’s probably good practice.

So, since we had a long drive home yesterday I decided to test out this little camera I just got.  So I put together this little video (which is somewhat embarrasing, but oh well).

Enjoy!

He Says… Least Favorite Words

“Can you put the baby to bed?”

This makes me cringe.  And I feel horrible that I feel this way, because I am acutely aware of how much work Kate does, and I want to support her as much as I can in taking care of Owen.  Since my opportunities to feed Owen are limited, then putting him to sleep at nap times or when he gets up at night when it’s not time to feed him is something I should be able to do.

But I suck at it.

And it really bothers me.

I don’t know if it’s just not having “mom’s touch”, or whatever, but I find that every time I try to put Owen down it takes many attempts and sometimes some intervention by Kate to get the job done.  I find that if he’s being fussy, I am pretty successful at rocking or patting him and making him stop but often his eyes stay wide open, or when I try to transition him back to his crib, his face goes all red in his “I-am-about-to-wail” look.  So I pick him up again and start over.

Kate says he’s the same with her.  But I don’t believe her.

He Says… Bedtime

So during our years living together, Kate and I almost always went to bed at the same time.  I thought this was good for our relationship, and good for my sleep.  (In my bachelor days I would always stay up much later, for no real reason.)  But it was nice for us to have bedtime to unwind together, whether it was to watch tv in bed, read (rarely), or, um, do other things.

That all changed early on in Kate’s pregnancy, as she got really tired, and there was no way that I would consider going to sleep in the 8 or 9 o’clock hour.  So she would typically cart herself to bed hours before me leaving me to my bachelor ways again.  Suddenly I was up watching late night tv again and wouldn’t go to bed until 11 or 12.

That was pretty much the way it was through most of the pregnancy, and it really hasn’t changed now that Owen is here.  Sleep is so precious now (for Kate especially) that she’ll go upstairs around 8 or 8:30 to give Owen his “final” feeding before putting him to bed and then going to bed herself (by 9:30 usually).  Again, that is too early for me to go to sleep.  In the first few weeks after the birth, I would stay up until Owen’s next feeding (usually around 10:30 or 11) and then change him and get him ready for Kate to feed him.  Now he usually does a 4 or 5 hour sleep (thankfully) after his bedtime feeding, so I don’t stay up for that next one.  But instead I do my same old “bachelor” thing of staying up later than I need to, watching tv.

I have to say, though, I really appreciate having that time, and I know I probably shouldn’t even mention it because Kate hardly gets that kind of time to herself, and if she does, it’s usually spent showering, or emailing, etc.

I wonder if we’ll ever go back to going to bed at the same time.  I imagine that as Owen begins to be able to sleep all night, Kate won’t feel the need to go to bed herself at 9 or 9:30.  So hopefully then we can have some time to watch tv together (and actually get through a whole show without constant breaks to tend to Owen), and maybe even go to bed at the same time.