I’m thinking of starting an entire blog related to Owen and his exploding-diaper-super-peer issues.
Ok. Not really. I can’t imagine I’d get very many followers.
But I could.
I have the material.
If you’ve been reading this blog for awhile, you’ll know that it’s been this way since he was born. (Remember the time I actually tried putting a maxi pad in his diaper? That Mommy fail still makes me giggle.). Maybe he has an abnormally large bladder, or above-average pee-holding abilities, or a Three Stooges-esque sense of humor wherein he finds the physical comedy of soaking himself exceedingly hilarious. Either that or, after 2 years, I’m STILL putting his diapers on wrong. (I don’t think it’s the latter, but hey, I’m open to the idea that the fault in here is mine).
Contrary to what some readers have suggested (thanks for the heart attack, there, folks!), he does NOT, as far as we know, have a physical abnormality, nor is this habit a symptom of a larger issue (diabetes, etc.). Believe me, I’ve asked the doctor. Surely the pediatrician thought I was a nut, asking if my kid wetting the bed was a sign of some horrible disease. Um, no. Just unlucky, I guess?
The issue has come and gone throughout his life. Sometimes, in retrospect, I’ve been able to identify a trigger (teething, illness, timing of bottles/diaper changes/naptimes). But normally it just… comes and goes without a decipherable reason. I’ve tried bigger diapers, smaller diapers, different diapers, things in diapers, things on diapers and things around diapers. Currently he weighs only 28 pounds and is super duper long and lean, but is in size 6 diapers (we use Huggies Little Movers because they fit his body the best) due to the sheer amount of pee he pees at a time. We’ve been using night time diapers (which were a lifesaver for us) every night since he was only a few months old, and I’ve considered using them all day long for my little super pee-er, but damn, they are expensive. We’ve stopped short of duct taping the waist band to his tiny little waist, but perhaps that would actually help. (I kid! I kid!).
We limit liquids at night and a little before naptime, but the diaper explosions happen at other times, too. And the kid LOVES drinking water and sucks his milk like it’s his lifeblood. We were sitting at dinner just last night and Owen says, nonchalantly, “Der’s pee pee on my leg”. Sure enough, when he got up, his pants were soaked all the way down to his ankles. And the other night, THIS happened on our couch while we were playing in the middle of the afternoon. His diaper had been changed 1.5 hours prior, and was dry not very long before this picture was taken.
Luckily we all (generally) find it amusing and I never go anywhere without a change of clothes for him. The funny thing is that he’s also sometimes bone dry when I expect that he needs a diaper change. He’ll go hours dry (the other morning he actually woke up dry after the WHOLE NIGHT, which I found astounding and immediately worried about his hydration), and then BAM he turns on the faucet and the diaper is ready to pop after one “go”. It’s a mystery.
Lately I’ve been thinking, “I know it’s early for a boy to potty train, but perhaps he is already catching on to the concept of holding pee. Maybe it’s potty time…”. Let me start by saying that this is one milestone I am NOT looking to rush. I know so many people who turned potty training into a full-on battle with their children (involving whining and tears for both parties and complicated reward systems and bribes), and, as my pediatrician reminded me at our most recent checkup, it’s more of a milestone for the parent than the kid. The kid will do it when he’s ready. Also… I very much like being able to just toss a diaper in my bag when we go out for the day and not having to plan around a potty break every hour. (You know, except for potty breaks for me… since I’m pretty much on a toddler schedule too). It’s easier for me. So I’m not pushing him.
BUT! He’s been peeing on the potty every night before bathtime every night since July, when he saw a slightly older friend doing it on vacation with us. He is so freaking proud of himself when we read our special potty book and we clap and high five him for “so much pee pee”. Seriously. The kid pees as much as an adult. The other night, randomly, he pooped too, which was a first, as he’s normally a morning pooper. I went over the top with my praise, and I think I scared him with all of the “Great pooping, buddy!”s and now he keeps saying he doesn’t WANT to poop in the potty. Got it, little dude. I’ll dial down the enthusiasm!
Other than encouraging him before bath time, I haven’t pushed it. Recently if he mentions that he needs to go, or just went, I’ll ask if he wants to sit on the big potty. He has never said yes, and that’s totally cool with me.
But here’s the question: What’s the next step? I know he’s super young and I’m still trying to figure out if he’s to the point of having control over peeing, or if he just always happens to have pee waiting at bathtime. I’m not interested in bootcamp yet, or the other techniques of food rewards or charts. He’s little. He JUST turned two, and my pediatrician said that 80% of boys are potty trained by 3, but many take longer. However, he also said that Owen is mature and advanced in other ways, so may be on the early side of this as well.
But if he’s ready to move on to the next step… I’m not sure I know what it is. Asking more often? Encouraging him more or just letting him decide on his own when he wants to go?