She Says… Eating my Words

Sometimes it seems that Benjamin knows me even better than I know myself.

As I mentioned in this post about my apprehension to join a “Mommy Group”, he thought I would really enjoy getting out of the house and meeting some people with babies the same age as Owen. I was worried that I’d hate the small talk and chit-chat and baby comparing. And frankly, I don’t really mind being in the house all day… at least not right now while taking care of Owen is easily a full-time job.

But all of that changed yesterday.

Do you know what I did? I went to a free “Breastfeeding Drop-In” at Isis Maternity (a specialty pregnancy/parenting store with several locations around Boston that run lots of classes and events for parents and babies). They have a lactation consultant there for an hour or so and you can stop by and ask breastfeeding questions, and even book a one-on-one consultation if you have a specific issue. I decided it would be a good opportunity to get out of the house and try breastfeeding somewhere new, and I still have lots of questions about my lopsided milk production and pumping and nipple shields, etc., so I figured I would benefit from a little Q&A with an expert other than the lactation specialist I’ve seen at my OB’s office. So with my pregnant sister-in-law in tow for moral support, I ventured out with little Owen. We shopped around in the amazing retail side of their store for awhile (I picked up a pack of Aden + Anais swaddle blankets, per everyone’s suggestions to my swaddle post — very excited to try them out once I wash them!), and then went in to the room where the breastfeeding drop-in was being held.

To my surprise, there were nearly 15 women all seated on the floor with boppy pillows nursing their babies! For some reason I expected it to be an empty room with the lactation consultant in it where people would stop in and ask questions and then leave. But this was like a breastfeeding PARTY! I found a seat, whipped out my nipple shield and joined the fun. Even more to my surprise, the drop-in was more like a class. The lactation consultant went around the room introducing us and our babies, and then giving us each time to ask our questions. While we chatted, babies fussed and cried, moms changed diapers and used the scale that was available to weigh their babies. It was the perfect level of controlled chaos, and I was so thrilled to be a part of it. I think I sat there the whole time with my mouth open, nodding and smiling as women described various issues they were having. It was amazing to see all of the different babies and hear the questions from other moms. As I caught the eyes of some of the moms and smiled, I was overwhelmed by how happy I was to be a part of this little club, and I couldn’t wait to sign up for a Mommy Group.

Needless to say, I learned A LOT. I got some great advice (both from the lactation consultant and from other moms), and I walked right out the door to the register and signed up for a Mommy Group that starts in early September. I’m really excited. Not only that, but since Owen was fed and changed and I was already out of the house, I even headed over to Starbucks and enjoyed an entire vanilla latte while he slept soundly in his carseat. Pure bliss. I think I’ll go back to the breastfeeding drop-in next week too. I’m sure I’ll have more questions, and maybe this time I’ll actually talk to some of the other moms rather than just making eye contact 🙂

I’m not afraid to say it: I was wrong. I think I’m going to LOVE my Mommy Group.

And while we’re on the subject, I’m also eating my words about ever wanting twins. I can’t imagine doing everything that I’m doing with Owen, times two. I am SO THANKFUL I only have one baby right now.

Benjamin 2, Kate 0.


17 responses to “She Says… Eating my Words

  1. I love this post and I’m so glad you had such a positive experience at the Breastfeeding Drop-In! I laughed out loud when you called it “a breastfeeding PARTY”! haha! What a wonderful way to describe it. A lot of moms attend the “party” week after week even after they’ve resolved any breastfeeding issues, just because they enjoy the community of nursing moms so much. And if you liked the drop-in, you will definitely love the mom’s group where you’ll be with the same group of moms each week so you can get to know them and their babies. We hear from moms of toddlers and preschoolers that they still get together with their moms groups years later. Anyway, thanks again for sharing your experience– I can’t wait to share your post with my colleagues here at Isis. It’s why we do what we do.

  2. My parents had my twin brother and I right off the bat and then had my younger sister and brother about two years apart after us. My Mom was only 20 at the time and even though my parents had zero money (my Dad was working for like $6/hr!) they still needed help with two babies and managed to pull their savings to hire a part time helper for my Mom.

    After having twins and then going to one child a time two years after that, my Dad always jokes that he doesn’t understand what parents are complaining about. In his words ‘one at a time is a piece of cake’ 🙂

  3. I’m so glad you loved your class!!! I really want to find something similar once Liam gets here so that I don’t feel isolated.

    Can’t wait to hear how you like your Aden+Anais swaddling blankets– I got some at our shower and they are washed and ready to go. They get so soft, fluffy and crinkly when you wash them. I also got one of the layered muslin sleeping bags to try out as well. We’ll see if Liam likes them!

  4. Awesome.
    Also, I still want twins. I want twins and then be done. My co-worker has 4 month old twin girls, and while it def. seems like a lot of work (A . LOT.OF.WORK) I still want twins. Although I’m betting if I had one, I might be singing a different tune!

  5. I was skeptical of the whole mom group thing too…now that I joined one I have met a lot of great peeps that I can go on a hike with or jog and chat. Woohoo for mommy groups 🙂

  6. My baby isn’t even here yet and I can’t imagine having twins! 🙂 Glad you found a supportive group.

  7. Kate, I am SO happy you went to the class and that you signed up for the Mommy Group. BF is so incredibly challenging but you can learn so much from other mommies….and they will support you like you can never imagine! You will enjoy getting out and being with people who love their babies as much as you do!! I can’t believe you have enough time to blog- you and benjamin are adapting amazingly to life with Owen. You are doing better than I did with 1 baby (and I am 12 days or less from bringing twins into this world) – you should be so proud of everything you accomplished! Enjoy the groups and I hope you meet some fabulous people!!

  8. I had to eat my words about twins too…I don’t know how they do it!

  9. I’m so glad this worked for you. As I mentioned when you first blogged about this, I regretted not doing it with Lilly but I am already signed up for a few things this time. The support is great and you will feel lonely sometimes so it’s nice meeting moms in similar situations.

  10. Meera murthy

    Kate, this was a great post. Thanks for sharing your experience. I started going to Isis before my son was born for pre-natal classes and we still continue going every week. My son is 20 months old. Few of the moms I met at Isis in the great beginnings class when our babies were a month old have become my best friends and the greatest support group.
    I am so happy you found Isis and hope you enjoy the weekly BF party!

  11. I remember when you said you were excited/hopeful at the possibility of having twins, and I was stressing at the possibility I may have two on the way (I already had one, and hadn’t had my ultrasound with #2 yet)- my emotions were EXACTLY OPPOSITE yours. Now that the little guys is here, and is a wonderful baby, and I’m still running around like a headless chicken, I am once again thankful I had just one beautiful bub – completely with you on that one!
    Glad you had such a positive experience. I live in too small a town to have the possibility of a moms group, but think I would have similar reservations. Can’t wait to hear how it goes!

  12. I haven’t read all the suggestions on swaddle blankets, but the best one we found was the Miracle Blanket! It is aaaaamazing, and it made naptimes a breeze, and sleeping through the night came really early. I’m pregnant now, and just ordered a couple more for our *twins* haha. I never wished for twins… and it’s going to be SO HARD. But very rewarding Im sure…. hopefully…

  13. Isn’t it crazy how sometimes what you think a part of motherhood will be like IS TOTALLY THE OPPOSITE? I thought I would hate mommy groups too, but I love mine. And honestly, it just gets better. Wait til they start walking and actually noticing that other babies exist (beyond trying to pull hair or poke out eyes). I am so glad that Charlotte has the chance to interact with the same babies her age over and over – and that I benefit from a little adult interaction with people who know me inside out and backwards. Mom friends are awesome =)

    Also, so are breastfeeding parties.

  14. Also, before I had Charlotte, I never wanted twins. I thought it would be a disaster. I even told Donald that if I gave birth to twins, I was done, even if it was the first pregnancy.



    I love parenting. I would love it with another singlet and I would love it with twins and I would love it with triplets. Although I don’t really think my uterus is cut out for that sort of overtime, to be honest.

  15. Hey there, saw the link your post from Isis on Facebook. So glad you enjoyed the group!

    I have to say, the Great Beginnings class I took with my babies when they were 5 weeks old was one of the best things I did for the three of us. It was awesome practice getting out of the house on my own, since I knew I was going somewhere safe and friendly. It was a wonderful means of support and camaraderie. All nine moms still keep in touch. I tell all of my local new mom friends to do it, I loved it that much.

    Now that my “babies” have turned three, we are finishing our very last Isis class together. I know preschool will be a great new adventure for them, and I also know that our time at Isis has laid a great foundation for them in terms of working well with a group of children, as well as for me as a parent.

    (And a P.S. to the people wishing for twins – BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU WISH FOR. I made that same joke, and here I am! Nothing I’ve ever experienced is as exhausting as the first 3, 6, 12, 18 months with twins. Holy crapola. I adore them and wouldn’t trade it for the world, but OMG.)

  16. I’m glad you liked your mommy group experience. I have several friends from church and various places with kids the same age and it’s amazing to me how you instantly seem to bond and just start talking about your kids. It’s been great and they’ve been wonderful resources too!

  17. Good for you! My Great Beginnings class has only one more session, but I’m already planning to sign up for Next Steps. It’s been nice to meet other moms and learn about baby milestones in a group setting – so much better than reading about them in a dry book. Have fun!

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