(I will try to keep this as educational and family friendly as possible.)
So, I feel that I should bring up this subject, well, because sex is posing to be a bit of a challenge for us currently. In the first 6-8 weeks of pregnancy Kate was so exhausted and she (especially) had this protective feeling over the fragile baby inside her that sex was not at the top of either of our lists. Once we got past the first couple months and felt pretty comfortable that Piccolino was doing well and was protected inside Kate’s belly, things got sort of back to normal (well, normal-normal and not “baby-making normal”, which was not exactly normal). Still, Kate was not feeling especially up for it all the time. I hoped that she would hit the second trimester “horny-like-a-teenage-boy” stage, but now that we are well into the second trimester I can safely say that ain’t going to happen.
I do think that Kate’s libido has increased somewhat over the previous trimester, but now sex is a little strange for both of us. The problem is, well, that we are not exactly alone anymore. As you can see in the belly pics, Kate has more than popped and is looking quite pregnant nowadays. That space between us has gotten MUCH smaller, and that makes things a bit challenging. I know we are both quite aware that our unborn child is there, and that is strange, to say the least. Even though I feel confident that he is well-protected I just can’t get it out of my head that he is there. And most of the time Kate can feel him, which is… distracting to her, to be sure.
We are creative individuals, and certainly try more pregnant belly-friendly “things”, but still, he is there. Somehow involved in this process that we feel should just happen with the two of us alone.
I am certainly aware that Kate has quite a bit more growing to do and as we start to feel Piccolino kick and move more and more, I think the physical and mental challenges of later pregnancy sex may be too daunting to overcome. A few years ago our friends were pregnant and they were told not to have sex for all of their pregnancy because she had placenta previa. I remember thinking how horrible to abstain from intercourse for 9+ months. Well, I think now that it’s not such a horrible thing to need to cut out during this time in one’s life. Certainly we’ll survive.
Now that I’ve spilled the beans on this “private” topic, I am curious to hear other people’s stories (and maybe Kate will write about it from her perspective, too).