Last night was Kate’s company’s holiday party. It is a fancy affair that they hold at the Four Seasons with a charity auction and food and drinks and dancing. For a work event it is generally a good time. We got decked out. I wore a suit, and Kate wore a very pretty dress that she bought in the spring and wore to a few weddings this year. Now Kate has only told one person at work that she is pregnant (her boss, who works in Toronto) and she didn’t feel the need to bring it up quite yet with her coworkers. We went to the bar to get drinks; I got wine and Kate asked for a cranberry and tonic (what I am now calling “The Cover-up Cocktail”). Again, since I think everybody is thinking about the possibility of our pregnancy (read here), I wanted Kate to have a cocktail-looking drink.
Within a minute or two of having our drinks one of her coworkers commented that her drink looked fancy and asked what she was having. Kate, who apparently would make the worst liar in the world, said “cranberry and tonic”. No gin. No vodka. So much for “The Cover-up Cocktail”. But that was the end of that conversation and we went on with the party. About twenty minutes later we were standing with this coworker and her boyfriend when she whispered to Kate “Are you pregnant?”. Obviously at this point lying would have seemed silly, and Kate said “yes”. The coworker and her boyfriend quietly congratulated us, and then…
And then the coworker said, “I totally knew it”, while grabbing Kate’s arm and said “I could just tell. You’ve put on a little baby weight.”
WHAT? EXCUSE ME!
Now I am a guy, but I know that it is a cardinal rule, especially among girls to never comment on another woman’s weight even during pregnancy, and especially after we told her we were only 6 weeks along.
Kate, who lets most things rub off her pretty easily just laughed and smiled. The coworker’s boyfriend and I stood there somewhat stunned. The coworker went on to say “And I could tell by your dress. This wasn’t a Kate-going-out-dress. This was a hide-your-stomach dress.”
Kate bought this dress in the spring with no intention of it being a maternity dress and frankly I think it’s stunning. And for the record, I am not sure I have noticed any real difference in Kate’s body at this point, despite the fact that she says she has gained a little weight around her stomach (like A LITTLE).
The entire conversation was just remarkable. I excused myself to the bar just to get out of there and a little later I was talking to the coworker’s boyfriend who was flabbergasted that she said that. Kate really laughed off the situation but I think she had a good excuse to smack the girl, even though she was being more idiotic than hurtful.
So that’s my story. The end.