First off, I will just say that the last 5 days have been a whirlwind of emotions. Can I make the excuse that Kate’s pregnancy has made ME more of a crier this week? Probably not (since those who know me know I am already quite emotional). But we have both been shocked by the amount of response our little blog and video has gotten online and every one of the comments has brought us to tears. Thank you all for sharing this experience with us.
The timing could not have been more perfect for telling our family about our news. I don’t know why Kate and I felt that the moment of telling people needed to be so orchestrated, but I felt like we were planning a surprise party coming up with how to share the news. On Thursday we were hosting Thanksgiving for one set of my parents (my parents are divorced) and relatives on that side (9 of us total). Kate spent all day Wednesday and Thursday, in between tears of joy, cooking an amazing Thanksgiving dinner that she had been planning for weeks. I liked having the home turf advantage for planning our big surprise. I came up with all sorts of ideas including Kate taking 9 pregnancy tests and us wrapping them in the napkins at the table. Kate thought a pee-covered stick next to the dinner plate was not quite as classy (or hygenic) as we had anticipated. We opted to just tell them all at dinner while everyone was together and paying attention. Because I felt that people would be anticipating our announcement if any signs pointed in that direction, I made a point to make Kate a [virgin] cocktail and have it known she was “drinking”. (This was probably overkill, I know). Anyway, dinner came and my aunt had asked me to read a little toast/reading that she had written. I had a hard time getting through the reading without crying, partly because it was very poignant, but mostly because I knew I was about to make the big announcement. After the reading, with a shaky hand and a shaky voice, I lifted my glass to thank everyone for coming. Then Kate jumped in to say that next year we’d need another seat at the Thanksgiving table (which was already very crowded) because we are pregnant. Everyone shrieked. My parents cried. I cried. Kate cried. It was a perfect reaction and a perfect night to tell them.
On Friday night we had plans to go out to dinner with my other parents and a few family friends. One of which was our friend Russell, who was the one who had been staying at our home the morning we got the big news. Since he already knew the news, I asked Russell to make a toast at dinner so that I could jump in. I made sure Kate ordered a glass of wine at dinner just to be covert (again, I don’t know why I felt the need for all these dramatic lead-ups). Russell made a touching toast at dinner but he didn’t get more than a few words out before he started to cry, so I jumped in and announced that they were going to be grandparents. My parents yelled (a good yell) and I believe a glass was even spilled on the table! Hugs and tears followed. Of course.
So it’s been a great few days of telling people our big news. I am so glad I got out of bed last Wednesday to film that video as I’ve enjoyed sending it to some friends in a cryptic message to share the news with them. And while Kate and I know that it is customary to wait a while to tell people, and we are not telling everyone now (we are asking people not to put anything on Facebook about it yet), I think we are pretty open about most things (hence the blog!) so we are not really following the old “wait until 12 weeks” rule.
So thank you all again for reading and supporting us and sharing these special moments with us.