Now that we are officially “trying” to get preggers, it seems everywhere I look I see pregnant women, and every conversation I have involves babies! Maybe it’s just that I’ve become more aware, or maybe it’s because all of a sudden everyone I know is hitting that “it’s just about time to have a baby” stage of their lives. Several of my close friends have had babies within the last year or so, and it never takes long for people to ask the hubster and I when we’re going to join the party.
It’s a funny thing, though, because although you want to share the news that you’re moving into a new stage of your life, you don’t necessarily want everyone to know you are “trying”. Especially not those friends who got pregnant the first time they tried, or didn’t even have to try at all. Even though it is fairly irrational (as no one would blame you for having to “try”), it does feel like some sort of failure not to get pregnant immediately. Especially for a slightly neurotic perfectionist like myself. I mean, if we are put here on this earth to reproduce, then what does that mean for women who can’t get pregnant? Are they evolutionarily useless?
Now don’t worry, I’m not putting myself in that category just yet. I fully realize that I’ve only been off birth control for a little over a month, which obviously has given us only one chance to make a baby so far. If that. Since I haven’t gotten my period yet at all, it’s very likely that my body hasn’t even started ovulating again since going off the pill. So, in reality, I haven’t failed; I just haven’t been given the chance to try! Also, I know that it takes women my age an average of 6 months to get pregnant, not to mention the fact that I have only a 15% chance of getting pregnant each month! When you look at the math, it’s amazing babies are ever conceived.